During the 94th Academy Awards celebration was tarnished when Will Smith slapped Christ Rock across the face for making a joke about Jada Picket Smith's lack of hair. Smith's actions was followed by a warning to Rock to keep his wife's name out of his mouth, which was laden with language many wouldn't equate with elegance and grace. Everyone has seen the video and has been keeping up with the news of Smith's consequences for his actions. Celebrities' are both both for and against Smith's actions. Smith resign from the Academy of Sciences and Arts. The new action taken against Smith is being prohibited to attend the Academy Awards Celebration for the next ten year.
In light of all this many videos have resurfaced of Jada humiliating Will on numerous occasions. Most notably during Jada's show, "The Red Table," where Jada lets everything out about her life of infidelity and how she just wanted to have fun and that the young man, a friend of her son, as she was looking to feel good because she claims that it had been so long since she felt good. Don't be misconstrued, Will isn't merely sitting there taking all of this in, he is confronting her to open up about what happen and why it happen. He is holding her accountable to some degree. During this interaction Jada is laughing and does not recognize her actions as a transgression. As she was claiming she was helping to "heal" someone what she was actually doing was seeking self gratification. Will is seen laughing too but I believe his reaction to her revelation is out of hurt.
In light of all that has been revealed, I have a very serious question for all my married friends out there. At what length would you go to save your marriage? How much value to you place on your marriage, on the other person you said you are going to commit the rest of your life with regardless of what happens in the unforeseen future.
If you have the mind set that "if they want to go let them go, no skin off my back," then I have to question your commitment and love for your spouse. That is an attitude that you don’t value your marriage and you have no respect for your spouse. Maybe this is the reason your spouse is considering separation and no longer wishing to continue down the road with you. They fail to see your devotion and commitment to the marriage, then why should they continue. This is not healthy in either situation.
Marriage is about commitment, respect, trust, faithfulness, and support. All of this comes under the umbrella of love, for better or for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health till death do you part. I have heard people say that a marriage takes 50/50 from the couple. There is absolutely no truth in that statement. Both much come into the relationship with a 100/100 attitude. Now will there be days where one or the other or both isn't able to give 100% but may give only 75%? Sure. Life goes on outside the marriage which in turn goes back into the marriage. People have to face outside stressors like work, traffic, other people we don't know but run into at Walmart, our neighbors and community, and the list can go on. Those interaction can and will affect our attitude which then runs into our marriage.
If it is easy for you to turn your back on the person who is questioning your marriage and is thinking about leaving then you’re not committed either. Your marriage has no value to you. Your excuse maybe, "They are not the person I marriage." Well guess what, you're no longer the person they marriage. We change as time go on, we grow and develop to the world around us, inside and outside our marriage. If you believe the person you said "I do" to will remain that same person for the next three, five, ten, or more years than you have set yourself up for failure. You're naïve to think that they are perfect or this awesome person you feel in love with. In addition, if you think you will remain the person you are today three, five, ten or more years from know then you are not wanting to grow yourself. Marriage is about growing together, examining yourself and seeking to be 1% better today than you were yesterday.
So I must ask, to what length are you willing to fight for your marriage? How valuable is your marriage to you? What resources are you getting ahold of that will influence and motivate you to do what you should do to save your marriage? How much time do you examine yourself to see what areas in your life do you need to work on for the betterment of your marriage? What are you willing to change about yourself? That's right, examine and change yourself because you cannot change your spouse. Examining them first before you remove the beam from your eye will only cause more problems.
So what they screw up from time to time. So what they make mistakes. So what they said something you didn’t like. Are you willing to speak to them about those things? Is communication important to you? Are you willing to examine yourself to see where you could be falling short? Are you willing to forgive yourself as well as your spouse and reconcile the relationship?
For my Christian friends, are you willing to let God work in you as much as you want Him to work in your spouse? Has God been missing in your life? Men, are you being the Spiritual Leader you are called to be? Ladies, are you honoring your husband as God commanding you to do? Are these two ideas offensive to you? Take this very important piece of advice, your marriage is not about you, it is about your spouse. Men, your marriage is not about you, what you get out of it, what she does for you. Your marriage is about her. Ladies, your marriage is not about you. Your marriage is not about what he does for you, how much he gives you, or what you get out of your marriage. Your marriage is about him. The idea here is you serve one another. You're not servants as in the since as being a slave. You serve one another for the best interest for them growing as a person in all areas of their life. We get this example from Jesus when he washed the feet of his disciples and through his death. He gave of himself so that we could have life. We should give of ourselves to our spouse for the best interest of their life. What you are doing is you are sowing seeds that you will feed from. As you bless your spouse they in turn bless you.
Don’t take your marriage for granted. If you believe you love your spouse fight for your marriage. Do not allow your emotions lead you on a path that you may end up regretting. If you give all you have and they still want to leave, do as Paul said, let them go (1 Corinthians 7:15)
In light of all this many videos have resurfaced of Jada humiliating Will on numerous occasions. Most notably during Jada's show, "The Red Table," where Jada lets everything out about her life of infidelity and how she just wanted to have fun and that the young man, a friend of her son, as she was looking to feel good because she claims that it had been so long since she felt good. Don't be misconstrued, Will isn't merely sitting there taking all of this in, he is confronting her to open up about what happen and why it happen. He is holding her accountable to some degree. During this interaction Jada is laughing and does not recognize her actions as a transgression. As she was claiming she was helping to "heal" someone what she was actually doing was seeking self gratification. Will is seen laughing too but I believe his reaction to her revelation is out of hurt.
In light of all that has been revealed, I have a very serious question for all my married friends out there. At what length would you go to save your marriage? How much value to you place on your marriage, on the other person you said you are going to commit the rest of your life with regardless of what happens in the unforeseen future.
If you have the mind set that "if they want to go let them go, no skin off my back," then I have to question your commitment and love for your spouse. That is an attitude that you don’t value your marriage and you have no respect for your spouse. Maybe this is the reason your spouse is considering separation and no longer wishing to continue down the road with you. They fail to see your devotion and commitment to the marriage, then why should they continue. This is not healthy in either situation.
Marriage is about commitment, respect, trust, faithfulness, and support. All of this comes under the umbrella of love, for better or for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health till death do you part. I have heard people say that a marriage takes 50/50 from the couple. There is absolutely no truth in that statement. Both much come into the relationship with a 100/100 attitude. Now will there be days where one or the other or both isn't able to give 100% but may give only 75%? Sure. Life goes on outside the marriage which in turn goes back into the marriage. People have to face outside stressors like work, traffic, other people we don't know but run into at Walmart, our neighbors and community, and the list can go on. Those interaction can and will affect our attitude which then runs into our marriage.
If it is easy for you to turn your back on the person who is questioning your marriage and is thinking about leaving then you’re not committed either. Your marriage has no value to you. Your excuse maybe, "They are not the person I marriage." Well guess what, you're no longer the person they marriage. We change as time go on, we grow and develop to the world around us, inside and outside our marriage. If you believe the person you said "I do" to will remain that same person for the next three, five, ten, or more years than you have set yourself up for failure. You're naïve to think that they are perfect or this awesome person you feel in love with. In addition, if you think you will remain the person you are today three, five, ten or more years from know then you are not wanting to grow yourself. Marriage is about growing together, examining yourself and seeking to be 1% better today than you were yesterday.
So I must ask, to what length are you willing to fight for your marriage? How valuable is your marriage to you? What resources are you getting ahold of that will influence and motivate you to do what you should do to save your marriage? How much time do you examine yourself to see what areas in your life do you need to work on for the betterment of your marriage? What are you willing to change about yourself? That's right, examine and change yourself because you cannot change your spouse. Examining them first before you remove the beam from your eye will only cause more problems.
So what they screw up from time to time. So what they make mistakes. So what they said something you didn’t like. Are you willing to speak to them about those things? Is communication important to you? Are you willing to examine yourself to see where you could be falling short? Are you willing to forgive yourself as well as your spouse and reconcile the relationship?
For my Christian friends, are you willing to let God work in you as much as you want Him to work in your spouse? Has God been missing in your life? Men, are you being the Spiritual Leader you are called to be? Ladies, are you honoring your husband as God commanding you to do? Are these two ideas offensive to you? Take this very important piece of advice, your marriage is not about you, it is about your spouse. Men, your marriage is not about you, what you get out of it, what she does for you. Your marriage is about her. Ladies, your marriage is not about you. Your marriage is not about what he does for you, how much he gives you, or what you get out of your marriage. Your marriage is about him. The idea here is you serve one another. You're not servants as in the since as being a slave. You serve one another for the best interest for them growing as a person in all areas of their life. We get this example from Jesus when he washed the feet of his disciples and through his death. He gave of himself so that we could have life. We should give of ourselves to our spouse for the best interest of their life. What you are doing is you are sowing seeds that you will feed from. As you bless your spouse they in turn bless you.
Don’t take your marriage for granted. If you believe you love your spouse fight for your marriage. Do not allow your emotions lead you on a path that you may end up regretting. If you give all you have and they still want to leave, do as Paul said, let them go (1 Corinthians 7:15)
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